The Marriage Commandments

Some time ago, I attended my BFF’s wedding engagement. Of course, all wedding engagements are lovely and touching. But it never touches my heart more because this is my B.F.F’s engagement. We stuck through each other through thick and thin; share each other’s happiness and woes. And right now, she had found her soulmate (so did I). I am really, utterly happy for her.

My favourite part of the wedding engagement has got to be the exchange of the vows. To date, my only regret is not to write our own vows simply I was too overwhelmed with the preparation to wreck my brain and show some love. It was too stressful. Period.

My girlfriend and her hubby decided to write and exchange their own vows, which is really sweet. I sat through, tearing through the vows. I mean, when can be more apt to show your love and gratitude to your better half then that moment? Seriously, besides the moment your hubby and you held your newborn, I guess that will probably be the only moment that you will ever felt that you really love your man.

Though get me wrong, I am not cynical. But probably, I do realise the practicality of love vs living. How many of you so seriously remember and live by the vow you made at the alter? Ask me now, and I can tell you I don’t remember any thing that was said except “I do”.

Sometimes, love just ain’t enough in a relationship. Responsibility, commitment, compromising and of course, communication is really important.

Aloysius and I have our fair shares of ups and downs in our relationship - from courtship days to being parents. Love was easy and simple before kids. We enjoy snuggling up in our cosy bed on a weekend and love spontaneous adventures. I am the “anything for you, baby” girlfriend. 

But never would I expect that our relationship will be put to a test after being parents. All the loves turns into instant hates. Sometimes, things that he do or not do gets onto my nerves especially when it comes to parenting Allysa. I live by the “It’s better safe than sorry” motto and whereas his “Carpe diem”!

It’s definitely got to get too long winded if I start writing all the challenges I face. And seriously, I do not want to do there. If you are a mum, (i believe) you will experience the same stuffs at some point in time (if you don’t, good for you. you are one lucky chick!) and probably start nodding and share the same sentiments with me. So hear I say, "Sista, I hear you!” And of course at any point in time you read this post and want a support, feel free to drop a comment for this post. ☺

I realised marriages are never always rosy. We might see a picture perfect family but who knows what happens back at home? But the only difference is this couple work to work things out. They see the good in others and is constantly trying to work out the differences between the two of them after the many quarrels. After all, a marriage is a union of two individuals. 

It’s like Thomas Edison. "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” In reality, this is how a couple work things out. It’s all about trial and error.

They look ahead of the bright future in front of them. They know that the sun will be out and shining brightly after the thunderstorm. 

So do I. Most importantly, always remember the reason you both fell in love. 

I find the below poster filled with many meaningful mottos to share and live by. Do save it up and it will serve a good gentle reminder to you (and him) on those days when you need it most. 

Are you doing these daily?